The one constant thing in our life is change. We cannot avoid it and the more we resist change the tougher our life becomes. Trust me, I know this because I was very skilled at deflecting change in my life. We are surrounded by change and it is the one thing that has the most dramatic impact on our lives. Change has the ability to catch up with you at some point in your life. There is no avoiding it because it will find you, challenge you, and force you to reconsider how you live your life.
Change can come into our lives as a result of a crisis, as a result of choice or by chance. In either situation we are all faced with having to make a choice – do we make the change or not? I believe it is always better to make changes in your life when you choose to rather than being forced to.
We however cannot avoid the unexpected events (crisis) in our lives because it is these events that challenge our complacency in life. What
1. Meeting New People Who Are “Your Type”
You rarely meet new friends on the street, or during your commute. Instead, you probably have made friends through other friends, through work, school, or similar. This is primarily because friendship needs a context, or an appropriate environment in order to emerge.
If this is the case, why waste time hoping for new friendships to happen? Why not take control and put yourself in environments where the probability of meeting new people is high?
I recommend you find private settings like local communities or meet-up clubs around your interests. As a rule of thumb, you need to find places where it’s natural to walk up to a stranger and introduce yourself.
2. Knowing If They Too Are Looking For New Pals
This is counter-intuitive but, it helps you avoid rejection by taking a step-back before investing yourself too much, too early, on friendships that aren’t happening.
When you meet a new potential friend, don’t just assume that they have time for you, or that they too are looking for new pals. And that’s the case even if they like you
She called last night (twice actually), and she’s already left a voice mail this morning: “Are you coming to your nephew’s second birthday party this weekend? If you miss it, your sister will be devastated. Plus, I never see you anymore….” You love her, you swear you do, but sometimes you could just… Anyway, the last thing you want to do is waste your weekend watching two-year-olds run around Chuck E. Cheese’s.
Piece of Your Social Pie
Come on, she’s your mom. She may be a little annoying, but she loves you and misses you (yup, we went there with the guilt). Suck it up and go to the kid’s party—there will be pizza! Then check in with a weekly phone call, plus the occasional dinner. That, and visits for major holidays, should keep Mom happy — and you sane.
Your Work “Friend”
You guys are war buddies now that you share a new boss whose temper puts Gordon Ramsay’s to shame. While you may not have a lot in common outside the office, you know it’s important to hit happy hour
Here are 5 tips to make it easier:
1. Let’s start with the most important factor in enjoying a rich social life – confidence.
As with any aspect of life where you might be doing something a little different, it’s the confidence you do or don’t exude that can influence not only how you feel but also how others feel about you. If you rock up at your social events and enjoy healthy food that you love, quietly confident in your choices and decision to stay true to what serves you best, you are going to feel better about yourself and attract less unwanted attention. You may still get curious glances and questions from interested friends and family, maybe even some unwanted ones, but you will be limiting the number and severity of these comments just by your contentment with your choices.
2. Pick the social events and people you wish to invest your time and energy in.
If you are trying to heal and live a healthy and happy life, then the first thing you need to do when making any decision is to check in with you. Consider how you are feeling, what it will mean to you if you do or
Raising a child as a single mother is not the easiest thing to do as life is fast paced and you do not have any time for yourself but you need not despair as there are simple things that you can do to ensure that you have a social life.
Leading a balanced life is important so that you do not wear yourself out. Single mothers should not feel guilty with wanting to have a social life as socializing is important to your mental health and it is normal to want to spend some time away from your children and have a conversation with other adults.
It is important to make time in your schedule to socialize even if it seems impossible. You need to set aside a day or time for social events that is suitable for you, whether it be once a week or month, it all depends on what your schedule is like.
Planning social activities does not need to be expensive especially as raising a child alone can be very expensive. You need to choose activities that are affordable and that are of interest to you. Dancing is a free and fun activity to do with people you already
If you are serious about committing yourself to long-term weight loss, then you will most likely find that devoting part of your schedule to maintaining a strict exercise and diet can severely affect your social life. Not only are you at risk for becoming a social outcast if you closely monitor your food intake at public events such as a dinner party, but you also risk alienating your close friends if you being spending an inordinate amount of time exercising.
As with all great things, it is important that you find a balance between your desire to exercise and your desire to spend time with friends. While one activity should not negatively impact the other, it is sometimes difficult to draw the line, especially in the beginning of a new weight-loss routine.
Here are some tips to help you maintain an active social life while simultaneously sustaining a measurable weight loss:
Grab a Buddy and set a goal together. You and a friend can train together for a local race, such as a 10K or even a marathon. By having a goal set, you and your friend will have a set deadline for working out. The deadline will likely inspire you to
After spending decades as one-half of a couple, older adults who find themselves suddenly single can face overwhelming isolation and loneliness. But senior singles can make the most out of the rest of their lives by taking positive steps to develop fulfilling new relationships.
It takes time to overcome the grief that accompanies the absence of a long-time partner. Once the survivors feel emotionally ready to enjoy social activities again, they often don’t know where to turn or how to get started.
JoEllen Schill, an interpersonal resource consultant who works with singles of all ages, says older adults face particular challenges in developing a social life as a single.
“The first step is to get over the shock and depression associated with the end of long-term relationship, either through divorce or death,” Schill says. “When people come out of this depression, they realize they may have 15 or 20 years of life left and they must make a decision about what to do with the rest of their lives. Not everyone wants to hook up with another partner, but most people want to have some kind of social life.”
Schill suggests that the best way to re-enter the world of socializing and dating is
It’s difficult to live in a modern society since it’s full of mistakes, principles and prejudices. Democratic world gives people freedom in almost all spheres of their life. People are free to behave and act the way they like. We should remember that uncontrolled democracy without morality and ethic regulation can be dangerous for people from all over the world. Nowadays, society has a blurred vision of reality. It seems to me that we’ve become blind to many obvious things and truths. We make mistakes and don’t even know about them. If we don’t correct our mistakes today, then our future generations will suffer from the consequences of our sins.
Many positive values have been replaced by negative ones. Greediness, rudeness, cruelty and indifference have become predominant values that guide the life of millions of people. I think that people should open their eyes and try to understand that it’s never late to save the situation. We should learn to value things and use humane ways to reach goals. I believe that a mistake is not a mistake, if we try to correct it and change everything for better. I hope this little article will motivate and inspire you to improve
Streamline your social networking. In this age of social media, it’s not uncommon for people to have hundreds of online “friends” on any given social site. Keep in mind that on many social media sites, accepting a connection request gives that individual access to all the information in your profile. Keep profile information minimal and general, and never accept a friend request from someone you don’t actually know.
Shed, shred, shred. Spring Cleaning creates a good opportunity to get rid of things you no longer need, including old documents. But don’t just throw them away; shred sensitive personal documents you don’t need to keep.
As Seasons Change, So Should Passwords. Passwords are an important part of your identity in the digital age. How well you protect them directly affects your ability to protect your identity. We recommend changing passwords with the change of every season. Strong passwords have at least eight characters, including numerals, upper and lowercase letters, and special characters. They should never be obvious – like part of your name or your mother’s maiden name – and you should have a different password for every account.
Clean out your wallet. What you don´t carry in your wallet or purse is just
Feelings of anxiety, loneliness, and depression are common in today’s world. However, working to improve your own state of mind is something that can be done – and should be, all through a few simple techniques like the ones outlined below.
1- Try mindfulness techniques
Mindfulness is an actual psychotherapy technique, but, in actuality it’s also strongly tied in with the universally human capacity for empathy. In other words, behaving mindfully toward others, experts explain, means living proactively in the present moment, understanding their needs, and fulfilling them to the extent to which you are willing to accommodate them. It’s part caring, part generosity, but, above and beyond all this, it’s a manner of living openly, in order to attract new, beneficial people in your life.
2- Step outside your comfort zone
Nothing is more detrimental to one’s livelihood, creativity, and sense of fulfillment than the sensation that you’re living in a rut. Luckily, feeling stuck can be easily solved nowadays. All you need to do is step outside your bubble of comfort and do something that challenges you. If you feel unskilled, sign up for a free course. If going out tires you, ask a good friend to join you out on the
1. Maintain your online presence. Follow people on Twitter, clean up your Facebook, update your LinkedIn, and keep your profiles public – these are the easiest ways to be found via social media.
2. Schedule, schedule, schedule. In maintaining your online presence, you need to make sure you have time to keep the profiles listed above up-to-date. Pre-scheduling posts has made every community manager’s life easier, but it can also help your personal profiles so you don’t have to worry about losing your online impressions. There are numerous free online tools you can use for this including TweetDeck and Hootsuite!
3. There’s an app for that! If This Then That, LastPass, Evernote, Hootlet, etc. are only a few of the apps that can help simplify your social life. Useful for business and personal profiles, there is the right app for you depending on what you’re looking to post. My favorite is the “recipes” created on IFTTT which automatically posts your Instagram photos to your Twitter using the proper links so you can see the image.
4. Share, share, share. Sharing content! There’s nothing like creating traffic and sharing what people are saying online to get your message across. Always give credit where credit
1. Turn Off ALL Your Notifications
I remember when it was cool to carry around a pager. It meant you were important enough that you needed an extra way to be reached by people. Now we’re too available. I’m not here to tell you to deactivate your Facebook account or anything like that, but there are ways to systematically reduce your consumption of social media.
2. Replace Your Most Used Apps with Something Productive
If you check Facebook 60+ times a day, you need to cut it down. The best way to do this is not by forcing yourself to check it less, or forcing yourself to wait a certain amount of time before you check it again, or even temporarily deactivating it.
Each of those requires cognitive energy for each decision point. It becomes mentally draining and you’ll eventually give in. Instead, delete the app you waste the most time on off your phone. Check Facebook all you want, but just not from your phone.
The location where the Facebook icon was, replace it with something else like Kindle. Now when you habitually hit the same spot on your phone, you’ll open up something useful instead.
3. Unfriend, Unfollow, Unsubscribe
Go through all your lists. There
If you’re feeling like you don’t have enough friends in your life lately, you’re likely not alone. As we get older (and responsibilities pile up), maintaining friendships and meeting new people get harder.
But there are a few ways to rev up your social life that don’t require a ton of time. We’ve listed a few of our favorites.
#Start something fun
One of the easiest ways to improve your social life is to take initiative. Rather than wait for someone to text or call about seeing a movie or going for drinks, step up to the plate and initiate plans. Host a cocktail party, gather some friends for an impromptu game night or challenge your BFFs to a weekly walking date to boost fitness and fit in fun.
#Join something fun
If you want to meet new people and have a good excuse to get out of the house, we suggest joining a club or a team. Think about what you like to do and what you’d like to learn. Then get online or ask around at work and among friends to see what’s available in your area. From sports teams to hiking clubs, there’s bound to be a group of like-minded
1 – Ignore The Past: Learn From It and Move On
Now, you might be wondering what it means to be friends with yourself first before you can become friends with anyone else. Well, the first thing you must do is stop blaming yourself for past failures – whether the actions were caused by you or not – when you had a social life.
You think that you should have done better years ago? Take invitations and show up at parties more often? Not to refuse to hang out with your pals from back then? Behave more socially in school and keep in touch with your classmates when the school was over? Be not that picky about people around you? Don’t turn down the offer of that girl to become her boyfriend (Damn, I did it twice!)?
Probably you’ve been dwelling on those mistakes, figuring out what it could be that turned you into a social leper. Here’s what you need to understand: you could have done everything different and still not have had a happy social life.
Keep in mind that if you did spend more time socializing, your grades would have suffered tremendously. And, when your grades suffer, it’s less likely you’d
A lot of people believe that developing a social life is something that should just happen naturally, on it’s on, without you needing to do anything. I disagree.
I think that while this can happen for some folks, in certain stages of their life, it’s not always the case. Which is why many of us today lack a fulfilling social life. If you’re in college so you get to hang around lots of other people and you’re naturally a social person, your social circle will develop on its own. But if you’re an accountant working in cubicle all day who doesn’t go out much and is kind of shy, your social life may be seriously deficient.
In my view, building a social life requires the same active and strategic approach that making money or building a career requires. An approach based on setting goals and acting on them. Coming from this angle, I want to show you 4 proactive strategies to build a social life.
1. Understand Your Type
A fulfilling social life looks differently for different people. Some of us need lots of friends and a large social circle. Some of us are more fond a having just a few friends, but
If you feel like you’re the awkward person at social events or you struggle to enter into conversations because you’re shy, it can impact your social life and your career. However, you can start improving your social skills by following these 12 strategies and soon, you’ll be able to enter into conversations with confidence.
1. Behave Like a Social Person
You can behave like a more social creature, even if you don’t feel like it. Don’t allow anxiety to hold you back. Make the decision to talk to new people and to enter into conversations even when you’re feeling nervous about it. Over time, it will get easier and you’ll quickly start improving your social skills.
2. Start Small if Necessary
If going to a party or spending time in a crowd seems overwhelming, start small. Go into the grocery store and say, “Thank you,” to the clerk or go to a restaurant and order your food. Practice making small talk gradually.
3. Ask Open-Ended Questions
If you want the attention off you in a conversation, get familiar with open-ended questions. Encourage others to talk so you won’t have to make the idle chit-chat. Ask questions that require more than a yes or
Imagine that you have to move in two days. Would you be able to pack all your possessions in that time and clean out your house completely?
How about your mental baggage? If you have only two days left to finish all the important projects in your life, would you be able to do it?
Three years ago I left the country where I was born and raised and moved permanently to a different place half way around the globe.
Packing was not easy because there were so many things that were meaningful to me but of course I couldn’t take them all. But even more difficult was the part of leaving my friends and family behind. I couldn’t put my friends in a suitcase and smuggle them across the border.
However, the hardest part was still ahead. Soon after I got to the US I realized that I had to let go of a lot of habits and even my lifestyle. Everything was so different from where I grew up.
I had two choices: to hold on to my past, complain, and be completely miserable or let go of everything that was no longer relevant and start a new life while still holding on
School and social life are like oil and water – they don’t mix. You absolutely want to go hang out with your friends, but you need to study for that test the next day! Dear teens, here’s how to balance your social life and school!
1. Do your homework as soon as you get home. It’s tough, and you want to relax however if you do your homework the second you get home, you have the rest of the night to relax. Do this even on Friday. Make it a habit.
2. Listen to music while doing homework. This helps you work at a faster speed and seems to make time go by quickly. However, not everyone can work while listening to music, so if you happen to be one of these people, then you can work in an environment without music – it’s perfectly fine.
3. Turn off your cellphone and television while doing your homework. Distractions are the number one reason why you take five hours instead of one to complete your homework.
4. Have a lot of homework? Then maybe do some on the bus ride home. This won’t work if you walk home from school, though. What you can do
Whether you’re still answering work-related emails at 10 P.M. each night or, like 29-year-old Sharice, you turned down a job opportunity because it “required too much travel” for your bustling social schedule, finding work-life balance can be difficult—especially when you want to move up the corporate ladder.
“I think the hardest thing as a woman is we all juggle so much mentally with so many ‘tabs open’ all the time,” explains Kayleigh, 27. “How can I move forward when I am already drowning?”
For some women, like 31-year-old Danielle, their open tabs include a “need to focus my energy on my children.” For others, romantic—and platonic—relationships take precedence over late nights spent at the office. “My fiancé won’t like that I’m dedicating more time to living out my dream,” explains Hope, 27. “Plus, I get crap from my friends when I put more energy toward work.”
But career experts agree you can have both a life and a thriving career—with a little bit of work, of course. “Balance is different for everyone,” explains Karen Elizaga, executive coach and author of Find Your Sweet Spot: A Guide to Personal and Professional Excellence. “So the key question to ask yourself is, ‘What do I need
A fairly common social issue people have is that they’re not sure how to make friends and put together a social life for themselves. There are quite a few ways someone can find themselves in this situation:
- They’ve moved to a new city and don’t know very many people yet.
- They’ve been in a long-term relationship and have let their social life wither.
- Their old friends have slowly been dropping out of the picture (moving away, busy with work or a new family, etc.) and haven’t been replaced by new ones.
- A large chunk of their social circle disappeared overnight, like everyone graduated from university and most of their friends moved out of the city.
- They feel like they’ve grown apart from their current friends and want to make entirely new ones.
- In the past they were happy being alone a lot of the time, but now they want to be around people more often.
- They never really knew how to make friends and have always wished their social lives were better.
- Bare bones guide on how to make friends
Here are the basic steps to making friends. It seems simplistic, but there can be a lot to each point. People who struggle with their social lives often stumble
John N. Mitchell said it best when he said that, “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.” We’ve all heard about the power of our attitude, and that it’s our attitude that determines how much we succeed in life.
If you look around you, you will see that people with a positive attitude enjoy life more and are generally happier and more successful than those who walk around grumpy and pessimistic. Our attitude is the driving force in our lives—it can either push you to do great things or pull you down to your demise.
While it’s true that humans are born with certain tendencies or orientations, our personalities and attitudes are developed through our relationships and experiences. Our attitudes begin to develop in childhood and constantly evolve and change over the years through day-to-day interactions and experiences.
All the things that you have been through, all the people you have met and interacted with can have an impact on your attitude. If you think that all these factors have molded you into a person with a poor attitude towards life, there is no need to worry as there is always an opportunity for change. Let me share with you how
Did you know that people without friends are more likely to die an early death?
It’s true. Just ask science.
To up your chances of living a long, happy life, having a bunch of fair-weather buddies won’t do the trick. You need a diverse, well-rounded entourage that will stick with you through thick and thin. The following eight types of friends are just what you need to keep the doctor away.
1. A Loyal Best Friend
Sometimes a loyal best friend is the only thing you need to stay sane. Everyone needs a non-judgmental friend who will support them no matter what. This is the kind of friend who lets you be a hot mess and knows all of your deepest and darkest secrets, but still loves you all the same.
2. A Fearless Adventurer
We live in a big world where there are so many places to see, people to meet, and experiences to be had, yet so many of us are stuck in our own routines and forget to, well, live. We all need an adventurous friend who will pull us out of our shells and introduce us to new ideas, cultures, philosophies, and activities.
3. A Brutally Honest Confidant
There’s certain situations